The Art of Surrender
"I’ve consistently seen with patients and in myself that resisting or stiffening during challenging times only increases stress and saps power, creating what I call a bunker mentality. Everything becomes about defensiveness, worry, and fear, not love. Similarly, people get more severely injured in accidents when they tense up. If you fight pain or adversity, the spasm of discomfort tightens. But when you relax, suffering lessens." from "The Power of Surrender: Let Go and Energize Your Relationships, Success, and Well-Being" by Judith Md Orloff
Have you ever experienced the process of trying to control the uncontrollable?
Or the struggle to release control even though you know your effort to hold onto it is not only moot but absolutely exhausting?
And then maybe there have been times when you've held so tight that you end up losing, falling out of or squeezing the life out the thing you were trying to hold onto? (Like a dying relationship or a yoga pose)
Contrary to what so many of us are taught to believe, that surrender means we've "given up", it's actually an incredibly important construct and tool for putting our best work out into the world.
When we learn the art of and power behind surrender, we are really learning how to trust.
In order to surrender, we have to trust ourselves and the work we put into each and everything that we do.
Surrendering creates space for what is to come and if we never surrender - we will stay stuck, spinning our wheels and digging ourselves deeper into the hole we created.
Surrendering means accepting that we won’t always be able to “do it all” and “be all” for everyone.
When we want something, we may avoid the blocks that get in our way by trying to control it until the bitter end - no longer being productive, just grasping at straws - BUT we also lose the opportunity of releasing something and having it come back in a way that is so much better than we could have ever imagined.
Surrender is the key to cultivating success that feels effortless leaving energy for what’s next.
Tools for practicing the art of Surrender:
Lemon – Assists in life’s cleansing and encourages the letting go of possessions, people, and outcomes. Encourages independence and Self-Completeness.
Cilantro – Supports the emotions during the times when letting go of control is needed or in times of emotional detox.
Quotes + Mantras
Transformation happens on the other side of surrender.
Surrender is a journey from the outer turmoil to the inner peace. - Sri Chinmoy
When you surrender to what is and so become fully present, the past ceases to have any power. You do not need it anymore. Presence is the key. Now is the key. - Eckhart Tolle
Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. - Jack Kornfield
Sending so much love,